Handling Stressful Times
As a coach, I often meet people in great stress as they are facing circumstances that don’t please them, aware of ‘the gap’ between where they are and where they want to be. They reach out because they want help finding faith and some tools to help them get their life feeling back on track. The very nature of our contracted, stressful, angry states mean that faith and trust feel sorely out of reach. We find our wheels spinning and repetitive thoughts dominating our awareness. Faith is the ability to envision and believe in something as yet unseen, which is a big ask when there’s a hairy problem acting out in our lives!
I first offer some soothing, my faith that no-one here is broken, this is just a temporary experience offering the chance to deepen self-love and renew choices. We explore the fears and beliefs being triggered by their situation. We consider that perhaps the way things are, is not absolute proof of all being terribly wrong, but a beautifully crafted set up that highlights dynamics within the psyche that could do with some loving and some rewriting and that we can do.
As we unpack the fears and seeming limitations, we find the parts that need to be heard and considered. When we give voice to these parts, we generally find they are very young aspects that are feeling overwhelmed by circumstances that seems larger than them. When we are contracted by stress, it’s impossible to access the broader aspects of ourselves that can see a way forward. We are in ‘the gap’. When we don’t go within and visit these characters, they will stir up trouble in our lives, attracting to us more situations that highlight the wobble in maturity, until we have to pay attention.
With presence, inner enquiry, EFT, conscious breathing and visualisation, we get shifts in perception that reveal access to completely different choices. If you’ve been reading my previous articles here, you will remember my explanation of the varying vibrational states. Like a department store, each ‘mood frequency’ that we are in, has its own range of goods or possibilities. We simply can’t access hope and all its signature thoughts when we are down in the dumps. We have to climb up, small steps at a time, sometimes larger once we get going. But acknowledging where you are, when you are feeling the gap between where you are and where you’d like to be, is the first step to being able to change ‘departments’!
Rather than continuing with blaming the outside circumstance for the way you are feeling, I invite you to stop all outer action, take a walk to let off some steam first if necessary, then head for some privacy and write to your inner self.
Ask yourself, what part of me is so cross/angry/hurt/scared etc… Then write back to yourself, trusting the reply is coming from a certain aspect of you. You maybe surprised at how little this part of you is and how clearly they can explain their feelings… With some thoughtful communication, you can bring soothing and calm to your inner self and come out of the drama that the inner child is feeling.
This will lead to relief, the sure sign that you are changing ‘department’. If you are now feeling closer to hope or wellbeing, this is a great time to write more about what you are desiring, the changes that you are wanting to see. Exploring your desires and visions like this will actually change your vibration further and you can find yourself getting close to the vibration of faith and surety as you write…a sure sign that you are now in the department that actually holds the possibilities for you living the choices that you’ve clarified.
The gap between where we are and where we want to be is not measured in time and actions but is more truly measured in vibrational state – our moods. These are defined by our beliefs and those can be as impermanent as the weather, if we will only cease defining ourselves by the temporary clouds in our skies and remember that we are the sky, the air, the Universe itself…. By exploring the gap, we can break through the clouds with love and sail into our highest possibilities, breath by breath, choice by choice, the sky is not the limit!
If you would like help exploring these practices, understanding the Law of Attraction and learning to love yourself free from limitation, please contact me on 07734 405 145
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